I recently went to Glastonbury and met someone there who told me I should blog, as I seem like the kind of person who should share their reflections and findings on life. After this fruitful and deep piece of advice I made the decision to do just that; I try to look past the fact he was heavily intoxicated. This therefore will be a different kind of entry, based on my observations on human nature in general...
Now, where to begin? I have so many thoughts whirling in my head it's hard to find a way to order them. I suppose the general theme is happiness, and how we can so easily control this for ourselves and yet rarely do. I think that society and social expectation has a lot to do with the way that controlling our own happiness can be a struggle and how this is perhaps not even realised. Our Western society demands a specific path in life: have an education, get a job, find a partner, marry, buy a house, have children, continue to work, try to pay off the mortgage, retire. I know so many people that do not fit their expected criteria at their current age, and they are unhappy because of this. But I have to wonder, if they had no one else to compare themselves to, would they be unhappy? This leads me to delve deeper into the point of the path that I am nearing. It is almost assumed that late teens into early twenties will have fun and mess around with the opposite sex, have a few relationships and then settle down later in their twenties with someone serious. I have friends who are fed up of their single days and desperate to find a partner, whilst on the other end of the spectrum I know people who have ended very long term relationships purely because they started too young and feel they've missed out on their single days. I think that if these people could cut out everyone around them that they are comparing themselves to, they would be happy in their own lives; there would be no pressure on the singletons to find a partner, and no giving up a working relationship for those already in one. The strange thing is, there are so many people who do not conform, but we all seem to feel inadequate if we don't.
Something that fascinates me is the negative mind set that sees people complain about everyday occurrences that might not even have happened. By this I mean, for example, upon arrival at a bus stop someone utters the words, "I bet we just missed one". Why? Why be so negative? There is absolutely no evidence to suggest this and the person is sinking themselves into negativity for no reason at all. It simply isn't worth it. This is comparable to the weather haters and debaters... If you explicitly state that you love the wintry cold then you have every right to moan about the high summer temperatures. If not, get over it. Moreover, enjoy it. We never get sun in England so please do not say "it's a bit too hot though" when we finally have a spot of good weather. It is amazing how the same set of events can be viewed in totally different ways; I went out with a friend recently who was worried that it would be raining, I consoled her by pointing out that at least it would be less busy if the weather was bad. On the day, it was gloriously sunny and I commented on this, to which she replied, "oh no that's not good, it'll be really busy now". I give up, focus on the positives! It's as if some people actively find something to be miserable about. Again, not worth it; isn't being happy the most important thing in life? So why place this negativity upon yourself?
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